2008年5月21日 星期三
神的孩子都在跳舞四川大地震已經10天以後。Yahoo網站新聞說死亡人數已經確定至少4萬﹐預計還有1萬死亡人數﹐3萬2的失蹤人數。每天早上醒來吃早餐的時候媽媽一臉凝重看著鳳凰台的新聞﹐遞給我每天報紙上聳動的headlines。真的很難過。尤其關於陳堅的新聞﹐明明硬撐了三天三夜﹐卻在被救出來之後不到10分鐘就死了。媽說有一解放軍救出一個人的時候﹐發覺已經沒有了呼吸﹐而且雙腿都沒有了。解放軍轉身進入瓦礫﹐把斷肢拿出來﹐跪在死者前把腿接回去﹐還死者完整的尊嚴。大家都掉淚。
之前朋友Raf和我聊起一個朋友最近為情所困﹐我們直覺他庸人自擾﹐不如撇開兒女私情關心地震災情﹐心胸也寬闊。Raf和我share了這段達賴喇嘛的一段話﹐他自覺是近期內最有智慧的一段話。
We can see that there are many ways in which we actively contribute to our own experience of mental unrest and suffering. Although, in general, mental and emotional afflictions themselves can come naturally, often it is our own reinforcement of those negative emotions that makes them so much worse.
For instance when we have anger or hatred towards a person, there is less likelihood of its developing to a very intense degree if we leave it unattended. However, if we think about the projected injustices done to us, the ways in which we have been unfairly treated, and we keep on thinking about them over and over, then that feeds the hatred. It makes the hatred very powerful and intense.
Of course, the same can apply to when we have an attachment towards a particular person; we can feed that by thinking about how beautiful he or she is, and as we keep thinking about the projected qualities that we see in the person, the attachment becomes more and more intense. But this shows how through constant familiarity and thinking, we ourselves can make our emotions more intense and powerful.
We also often add to our pain and suffering by being overly sensitive, overreacting to minor things, and sometimes taking things too personally. We tend to take small things too seriously and blow them up out of proportion, while at the same time we often remain indifferent to the really important things, those things which have profound effects on our lives and long-term consequences and implications.
So I think that to a large extent, whether you suffer depends on how you respond to a given situation.
父親有捐了一些錢﹐還感慨想當義工做一些事情﹐身無分文的我自覺慚愧﹐我們這一代的小孩到底有什麼能力做些什麼。剛收到朋友的呼籲﹐在msn messenger的自己nickname前加一個彩虹
﹐為地震災民祈禱﹐風雨後會有彩虹。後續：內陸的一些大型網站都因為哀悼而把網站set成黑白monochrome。
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